[blockquote source=”Stephen King, The Wind Through The Keyhole”]“What if I fall?’, Tim cried.
Maerlyn laughed. ‘Sooner or later, we all do.”[/blockquote]
I woke up yesterday feeling as excited as I always do to “go to work” only to realise that I could not log into my account.
That stomach churning, seriously uncomfortable and I-really-feel-like-throwing-up moment happened to me yesterday morning. And it felt like sh*t.
I typed in my password and it says account not found. I tried it again. And again. And again. And after the fourth try, after being terribly in denial that, no, I did not just got locked out of my account, I came to an understanding with myself that I actually did get locked out. And I’m screwed.
My first reaction was – to cry. Yes, I actually had tears rolling down my face. I was so distraught I did not know what to do. In fact, I started thinking that there is a possibility that my account has been hacked so I Googled to see if it’s true. It felt like all my hard work in bringing up my life is gone.
My second reaction though, was somewhat calmer than the first. I sat there, literally like a stone, thinking of ways to fix this. Of course my first instinct was to try and reset my password and after a few failed attempts, I started reading up reasons on why this could’ve happened. The results were so confusing (seriously, I have no clue what myPHP and mySQL databases are), so I gave up, momentarily. And then I had a quick think and decided to log on to my hosting panel and things started to pick up from there.
For a start, that wasn’t much of a help either. The hosting panel is already VERY confusing as it is. I tried clicking a few icons and nothing helped so I put my ego down and started contacting customer support.
Lucky for me, HostGator has this courtesy backup service they run weekly and the last backup they did was last Sunday. It cost me $15 but I really had no other choice. Now it’s up and running and you’re here reading this. After a ten hour downtime, I’m glad I still have the site, I still have YOU, and it’s not that bad after all.
It was a tough lesson but hey, lesson learned the hard way stick to our mind like glue, forever.
Now here’s the most important thing.
Sh*t, it happens. And it happens all the time, to the best of us. This is not the first time I had a chicken scare. In fact, one time my 3-month old MacBook Air died on me and I lost every single thing I had in that machine. Chances are if you’re human and you live a life, you’ve probably also lost things in life which is worth something to you.
It could be anything like:
– Leaving your watch on the table while having dinner.
– Losing someone very important in your life, through death, separation and other very unpleasant events.
– Having every thing in your hard drive wiped out and have no back up whatsoever.
It could also be something along the lines of fitness. This may include:
– Having five dozens of Krispy Kreme doughnuts to an extent where you have to be rushed to ED.
– Losing 10 kilos, stopped exercising for two months and gaining all the weight PLUS another 5.
– Snapping your knees while doing a plyometric box jump.
You get it. Sh*t does happens and we’ve got to deal with it, big time. If you think you’re alone in this, you’re wrong too. Chances are, there’s probably at least thousands of other bloggers who might have accidentally deleted their WordPress files before and felt the same way as I did. We’ve all got issues, it’s how we handle them that puts us ahead, or behind, everyone else.
Here are some ways you can deal with it, deal with life, and deal with the world when sh*t happens.
Cry, vent, and let it all out
My first reaction was to cry. And I did. Like a hungry 4-month old. Also perhaps because I’m a Cancer (you sensitive and emotional being you).
If you have to, get out there, go climb a mountain and swear it all out all you want. Say all those bad words as much as you want. Go hit the pads and smash it up. Do ten and thousands of sprint till you pass out. Lift more weights. Call your best friend up and take the piss out of things. If she’s really your best friend, she’ll still love you anyway.
Right after I contacted customer support, I hit the gym and did the hardest workout I’ve ever done in ages. It was only 30 mins but I had the gym all to myself (it’s Sunday!) so I sprinted for 1.6km at 11km/h, did 50 super deep squats, 50 burpee press-up and a quick 30sec sprint at 15km/h. Nice.
I felt better afterwards. I wish they’ve sold this sort of things in bottles, I’ll stock em all up for all my crappy days.
Remember that it’s not that bad
If you think whatever situation you’re in is the worse that can ever happen to you, think of the last pee in the pants moment you had. How did you deal with it? It might have sucked but always remember that it’s not that bad and it could’ve been worse.
If you’re still breathing, have a pulse and just alive, be thankful. Remember that it’s never too late to turn things around. We all have bad days all the time, but only a few of us have a real perspective on what bad days actually feel like, myself included.
I have good friends working in a Cancer Centre and whenever we have time to catch up, I hear stories of death, helplessness and just sadness among their patients, families and close friends. Be thankful with what you’ve got because some people out there are not even close to being as fortunate as we are.
Accept the mistake and move on. Which takes me to the third point.
Learn from it
I am taking massive loads of precautionary measures now that I’ve lost a little bit of stuffs from my files. I’m making sure I back up those files myself before I do anything different so at least I know where it is if this were to happen again, and I don’t have to pay another $15. Paranoid to a certain extent, yes. Technology is a bitch sometimes.
The most important take home message that I want you to remember out of sh*t days is to learn from it. Whether it is your fault or not that it happened, there must be something which is worth remembering, something that you would instantly know what to do if you are placed in a situation like this again.
In the words of Mr. JT, whatever happened yesterday is history. Tomorrow’s a mystery. I can see you looking back at me.
Thank you, Justin.
Your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife/partner left you? Oh great. Cause you’re smart, beautiful and awesome, and I know cause you’re reading this. It’s their loss. Now you can focus on finding someone who is one hundred percent right for you. Plus, you probably could do better without them ruining your days and nights anyway.
Lost your job you’ve put your whole heart into? Start somewhere. Start your own business or start polishing your skills to be more job-ready. Start looking for another job you love. At least you’ve got this golden opportunity to do something you like perhaps for the very first time, so go for it.
Ate too much Krispy Kreme and now you feel bad? Remember that feeling and move onto a clean slate. Don’t have to bash yourself up. Just get on with it.
Whatever it is, learn from it by taking up a new opportunity and moving on. You’re better than that!
Stop bashing yourself up and dwell on it
And this is absolutely true in all things fitness and nutrition. If you’ve made a mistake by eating way too much, or not in compliant with your goals, do not bash yourself up. Remember this, we’re all humans and nothing in this world is perfect. There’ll be days where we miss a workout. There are also days like Thanksgiving or for my Singaporean readers, Chinese New Year or Hari Raya.
Rather than dwelling on it and sitting on the couch having more cherry pie, pineapple tart or beef rending, accept the fact that you made a boo-boo and get right back on track the next day.
Most importantly, accept the fact that you made the conscious decision to eat one tub of Ben & Jerrys in one sitting.
The more time you spend bashing yourself up the lesser time you have to get up and be awesome again. The best thing is, you get to change into the better version of you and once you start seeing changes, the ball starts rolling and you have no other choice but to stick with the momentum. Get out there and acknowledge the fact that you made a mistake or had a crappy day and go be awesome again.
Put everything behind
Last but not least, put everything behind. This may take hours, a few days, sometimes months and years but if you’re working on the first four points already, believe me you’re already one step ahead of others who are still bashing themselves up thinking why did all this happened to them.
Remember this, everything happens for a reason and that includes your sh*t moment. Tell yourself this – “Thank you for letting this happen to me. You can bring me down but guess what, you’re not taking the best of me.” Say it to yourself. Say it out loud. Use that moment to create something epic. If you’ve just broken up, focus on working at yourself now. Focus on creating your best life. Learn how to love yourself because the past is long dead and gone.
I am a believer that everything happens for a reason. I left my full-time job which pays me good money to pursue my passion. I felt crappy for a few weeks, but now I couldn’t be more thankful I left the job so I can write things like this and help you be awesome.
Whatever that has happened in your life no matter how long ago it is has happened and it’s now time to move on. I know, you probably thinking that it could happen in a better way but hey, that crap moment had to happen that way to get you to where you need to be.
It’s a mandatory step to get you stronger, wiser and definitely smarter than have ever been before.
[blockquote source=”Alanis Morisette – You Learn”]You live, you learn. You love, you learn. You cry, you learn. You lose, you learn. You bleed, you learn. You scream, you learn.[/blockquote]
You will learn. You will have the power to be stronger. And you will be better.
Here’s to you…
Now whatever that has happened to you, let it go, learn from it and strive to be better than you have ever been. You know you can and I believe it so too.
Tomorrow’s a new day. Seize it.
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Have a great week everyone. Our next post will be on Thursday. It’s Christmas on Wednesday so I doubt anyone will be reading online.
With that, Merry Christmas. Enjoy your day with your loved ones.